Men Gruesomely Admitted Why They Cheated On Their Partners, And Their Stories Are Juicy As Heck

Recently, Reddit user u/Aggravating-Angel217 asked the men of the Reddit community: "Men who have cheated: Why did you do it?"

A lot of their stories were juicy as heck, giving us insight into what really goes on in a man's mind while being in a "committed relationship."

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So, here are some of the wildest stories of men cheating on their significant others:

1."I cheated [because] I was trying to find value and my self-worth in sleeping with women. Growing up, I was far from being a ladies' man. In college, I worked on myself to improve my self-confidence, as all my life I had been longing to have someone who liked me back — all I ever wanted was a girlfriend. As my self-esteem grew, so did my luck with the ladies. Eventually, I was able to get a girlfriend (someone who was good to me), but I wasn't satisfied. I continued to look for validation from other women, which turned into cheating on my girlfriend. I thought I had discovered self-confidence because I could be more social and was more outgoing, but I realized that on the inside, I was still insecure. Growing up in my family, there were no good examples of healthy relationships, either — all of my uncles were womanizers. This probably had an impact on me as well."

—u/yunglil_aka_lilyung

2."Being wanted is very addicting, especially if you aren't often. The shame makes it worse, strangely enough — you can't really talk to anyone about being tempted, or even crossing the line. There's no support system from your friends or family who tell you that you're an idiot."

—u/MarioNSFW

3."I’ll step up and answer honestly: I was too afraid of hurting my then-girlfriend’s feelings to break up with her. So, I cheated. It seemed to justify the behavior in my brain — I realized I was so unhappy with this woman, it drove me to cheat. At times I thought I was going nuts — it doesn’t justify it, but it was me 'acting out.' I eventually dumped her when I couldn’t stand her behavior anymore, and yet still felt guilty."

—u/Due-Diamond1548

4."I was really into partying, and she wasn’t. We were both science majors and smart, we both loved running, and it was great. But, we didn’t have fun together the way I thought we would. A woman I was hooking up with the year before came on to me at a party, and I went with it with much regret. I never told my significant other, and a month later, she cheated on me, so I broke up with her. I was around 19 years old — shameful."

5."The general excuse I used to make myself feel better about the shitty actions were we weren't compatible anyway. But, that had nothing to do with the damage I caused to her heart. I'm a little more remorseful and try to be considerate these days, but I fully expect karma to come throw an egg on my face any day now."

—u/dogbarf_

6."I was young and immature enough to be susceptible to all the pop culture messages that say 'being a player makes you cool.' One night, when I was out getting super drunk with my buddy, I met a woman and decided I wanted to be 'cool.' I woke up the next day feeling awful, and came clean to my girlfriend. I was so impressed by her not leaving me, I decided to propose a few months later."

"After several shitty years and a divorce, I learned two important lessons: The first one being just because someone says the words 'I forgive you,' it doesn’t mean that they actually mean it. They could still bring up your mistakes years later every time you get into an argument.

The second lesson is just because someone does one really amazing thing (like forgiving you), it doesn’t mean you should ignore all of the other unrelated problems in your relationship."

—u/Story-Checks-Out

7."When my wife and I started dating, we fucked a lot — like, multiple times a day. Even after we moved in together, Shark Week was the only time we weren’t banging daily (and even then, I’d still get a blowjob). Then one day, it just stopped. I talked to her about it after about three weeks of getting turned down every night, and she told me sometimes her sex drive dropped off for a while. I understood that, because mine did, too. But then, three weeks turned into three months. I talked to her about it, but it changed nothing. I explained to her how it made me feel, and I asked her if there was something I could do differently — but she said it wasn’t me. At the six-month mark, I got tired of fighting about it — I felt ugly and unwanted. There was a woman at my work who was into me, and we worked the same shift. We met up a few times before she gave me an ultimatum to leave my wife."

8."At the time, I thought I was doing the right thing. My wife had an anxiety disorder which made sex painful for her — I thought I would get that need met somewhere else to take the pressure off her. I thought I loved her (I did, according to what I thought love was at the time), so I didn't want her to be upset for not meeting my 'needs.' I justified it to myself that way for a while, but I learned in the end that we were just unhappy together."

"Pro tip: Don't get married young because you think it will solve your problems. We were divorced just under five years later. She is remarried and has been for many years, and I have had one relationship that lasted two months 12 years ago. I never want to hurt anyone like that ever again, so much so that I've avoided relationships."

—u/ThatGuy22355645

9."I've [cheated] because after not being touched in a sexual or non-sexual way for six months, the attention from another person is intoxicating and wanted. I'm just used for money and quality time, as long as any of that time does not involve sex in any way anymore. I didn't cheat for sex — if I'm horny, I could just masturbate. But, I wanted to connect with another human who did want to actually touch me."

—u/HairyBearAdmire

10."It was the chance of a lifetime — she's the perfect woman. I had loved and chased her on and off since high school; we had been vague acquaintances at best, but I doubted she knew my name. One day, she messages me out of the blue if I was still living in the city I was living in, that she had some business, and asked if we could meet up. We meet and have an amazing time, there's some alcohol, and she comes back to my house. She says she's had a crush on me since high school as well; we decide to play a drinking game which becomes a taking off clothes game. I'm laying on my bed drunk in my underwear, she's standing beside the bed naked, and says: 'Now what?' I just couldn't contain myself anymore — I have absolutely zero regrets cheating."

—u/Ilookbetterthanyou

11."We were fighting a lot, and I thought the relationship was gonna end inevitably regardless of whether or not I cheated. So, the opportunity came up on its own, and I took it with zero hesitation. I didn't know cheating would kill any small possibility of us getting better and growing together. By cheating, I essentially admitted through my actions that I had no respect for her. We tried to patch things up and make it work afterwards, but it couldn't work because I've already proven to her and myself that I'm not gonna be faithful when times get tough. I wasn't loyal or committed to anyone but myself."

12."I was 18 years old, and it was my freshman year of college. I recently had sex for the first time with my then-girlfriend. I went home for Thanksgiving, and a woman I went to high school with made a move on me, and I went along with it. We didn’t have sex, but regardless, I felt terrible afterwards and haven’t cheated again since. My ex never found out about it — lesson learned: Cheating is never worth it."

—u/wchimezie

13."I used the excuse that everyone had cheated on me, so it only made sense to do the same. Later on, I have figured out I didn't know how to experience love. I didn't trust anyone and was dealing with some narcissistic behavior after being raised by one. I don't think it was one thing — the conquest and thrill had something to do with it."

—u/JRandButcherpete

14."I have a friend I’ve known for about 13 years, and nothing ever happened between us (but we always had sexual tension). We lived in separate states and told each other if the opportunity came up, we would most likely sleep together (because, after all, we both craved it). I flew to her state to visit while I was in a relationship that was on a dead-end path. Everything was fine until I put on a flavored chapstick, and she said she wanted to try it — then, she leaned in to kiss me. I didn’t stop it — of course, one thing led to another, and we slept together. Looking back I felt bad, but do I regret it now? No."

15."There was no love in the relationship. We were essentially cohabitating and passively hating each other, but neither of us could afford to move out. Moving in with family wasn’t an option, so when I got the chance to actually feel something and had an opportunity with someone who did want me, I obviously took it. It wasn’t like she wasn’t doing shit behind my back while I was at work, or like she moved in with the first guy who offered."

—u/Kestrel_VI

16.And finally: "The big reason I cheated is I have an addiction to sex. I found myself asking my fiancée for sex much more than I probably should, and when denied of sex, I found I could easily find people online who were looking for hookups near me. I didn't respect myself or my girlfriend, and I was trying to fill an emptiness left by a lack of self-worth and motivation with simple sexual satisfaction from random people."

"This went on for years until just recently. I've tried to become a faithful and trustworthy person so that I can live a happy life with the woman I've known to love for years now.

I'll probably always hate myself a little for what I've done to her, but I will always live the rest of my life to provide for her. I'll always owe my life to her for accepting me, and continuing to love me after I hurt her repeatedly."

—u/Zen_Aether

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Note: Some stories have been edited for length and/or clarity.